Out with the old................In with the New!

Happy New Year Divas! and Kings ....................

Wow! I woke up this morning super excited about the new year, at first I couldn't figure it out. Then, I thought about everything I'd experienced in 2011, and the emotions took over. It suddenly became crystal clear, OmGoodness! I am excited about all the blessings coming my way. God's promises are real.

Yes, this year-2011 has seen some serious "stretching", I've lived, loved and lost. There was plenty of laughter and plenty of tears, some much needed clarity, self enlightenment, goals accomplished, fears conquered, my heart was broken and mended all in the same breathe. Amen. I realized that God doesn't remove something if he doesn't have something better, especially when that "something" was placed in your life for a lesson, and a stepping stone to the next "better" thing.

When you evaluate your life, start with "I woke up this morning, and I'm reading this awesome blog" IJS.Then check your senses, eyes, ears, taste, touch, smell, and are your limbs working? Is your mind functioning? You got food? shelter? clothing?, I want you to break it all down. The pros certainly outweigh the cons, don't they? We've got to learn to appreciate what we have, and be thankful, grateful and acknowledge that with God nothing is impossible. Nothing! Every new day God allows us, an another opportunity to do something new, something different, something AWESOME!

I pray, not only for myself, but for all my friends and loved ones. I pray for good health, prosperity, goals reached, did I say prosperity?, peace of mind, love, light and laughter. If you encounter some bullshit, and you will, learn from it and move on. Give your loved ones their flowers while they can still smell them, spend more time with your kids, if your blessed to still have your parents living " be patient" lol.  Please stand in faith, claim your blessings! and know that you're walking out of the old.............and into the new. See you at the top!

SOMERANDOMSHIT (Dating).................#4

This Random Shit is all about the dating game................People It's about to get  real up in this bitch! I'm going to talk about ninjas - black men vs black boys, and white boys! also know as the Caucasian persuasion.


1. Why do men assume YOU want THEM?


2. Why do men assume because your fluffy and fabulous (yours truly) that you're also desperate?


3. Who in the hell told these sorry ass ninjas that it's alright to not feed a Diva?


3a............ or at least offer a bitch a glass of WATER!!


4. Just because we grant you a kiss does not mean you're getting the drawers!


4a........and if you do get the drawers "I" decided that shit! not you!-you ain't got that much game.


5. It cost money to look this fabulous! nails, hair (braids, weaves or wigs- it wasn't FREE)


5a. .......look you're always telling me how good I look, and how good I smell - KICK IN!


6. OMG! Begging!- I've encountered too many begging, hint dropping, "I need $20" ass ninjas


7. Swag-licious not a brand label, but an attitude, a personality, so just like Divas aren't made? Duh!


8. Ditto! brothers..... a pedicure and a clean pair of drawers carries a lot of weight.


9. So What! I snore Ninja! get over it.......................


10. Watch out Brothas! Mr. Charlie has stepped up his game. I told you I'd date outside my race.



11. Last 4 dates = 2 brothas vs 2 white boys, both white men took me out to eat............hmmmmm



11a......what's wrong with this picture? Black Men!!



12. Please! Don't front like you've never tried on-line dating, or even considered it.



13. Let me clear this up people- Assholes come in ALL colors..



14. These and so much more keep bringing me back full circle to Proverbs 18-22. God I hear you!!


15. Any dating suggestions?


16. Hey! leave some of your own dating mishaps, I'd love to hear them. Share!!!

The Lotus Flower...........and Me

The Lotus Flower it grows in the deep nasty slimy mud, at the bottom of the lake, far away from the sun. But, sooner or later, after the painful and difficult trials and tribulations of its existence, the Lotus Flower eventually reaches the wonderful light becoming the most beautiful flower ever.

An ancient symbol of enlightenment, self-regeneration and motivation the lotus flower will represent the many positive changes coming my way in 2012. I have claimed my resurrection! They thought I was down, they thought I was out, but not this Diva! My new life has just begun, there is love in my future, this is prosperity in my future, this is the one baby! This year-2011 has been..............Whew! a whole lotta things, eye opening, spiritual, painful, distracting, a waste of time, lackluster, sacrificial, petty, revealing, did I say painful and a waste of time? educational, cycles of bullshit, happy, sad. winning, losing, laughter, tears, joy, sunshine and rain, it's been all those things and so much more. Would I change anything? probably not. God does things in his own time, and in his own way. We may not always agree with his methods, or the process required, or which paths are presented before us, and I know my stubborn, running on self will behind doesn't always want to admit that he knows whats best for me. But! I'm here to tell you he ain't never left me or he's never forsaking me. I'm still here, and I'm still standing.

I look in the mirror and I see a woman who hasn't and still doesn't always do the right thing, I'm no saint, and anyone that professing to be............"Run! Forest! Run!. They're a liar and the truth ain't in em'. I am 50 years old, and I'm still learning about life, and about people. That never changes, people are in your life for one of two reasons 1) to teach you or 2) to learn from you. Period. Life is and can be that fucking simple. You give as good as you get, and most times you give more. Why? because it's just set up that way. It's give and take baby, either your the given or the taker, and it's not always fair, it fluctuates.

I'm a full time mommy now too! Damn! I tell you it's been a challenge, but so very worth it. I don't regret having my baby come live with me for one minute I love my son so much, and I just want to be a good parent. I didn't have the opportunity to raise my two oldest sons, and I'm just grateful for the chance to make a positive difference in his life.

I'm so excited about this coming year, and all the possibilities that God has placed in my life. Who knew that college could be so great! My earlier college days are a total blur, and shit so are my 20s, my 30s and fuck! the first few years of my 40s. I guess what I'm saying is God woke me up today, and for this I am grateful. I'm going into 2012 with happiness on my mind, love in my heart and small to major changes on the agenda.

And just like that Lotus Flower I'd allowed myself to be in that cold and slimy mud, hiding from the sunshine for way too long, afraid of change, afraid of life, hell! afraid of myself. But I want to see the light, and I feel the warmth of the rays shining down on me, and I want to feel rejuvenated, regenerated and enlightened, because just like that Lotus Flower I am beautiful......................

Whew!...............I swear I'm gonna kill this boy!

S.O.S.

I'm reaching out to you! all parents, fathers and mothers who have a teenage son. I swear I'm ready to kill this boy! I've tried begging, threatening, removal, and reward, but he just ain't grasping the concept. The concept of "you will be 18 in 6 1/2 months" and LIFE is ready and waiting. Life! where things aren't constant, nor are they fair.

Let me give you a little history, maybe that will help you to help me. My son came to live with me almost two yrs ago, see there were some "issues" surrounding his bitch ass step mother "Lady Sha'ron. (She's an entire chapter all by her evil self.) Okay, let's get back to the boy child. They say it takes an entire village to raise a child, and I'm reaching out to you "village", cause I'm about to kill this ninja!!! His sorry ass daddy talking about " He needs to go to the military, so they can teach him how to be a man" WTF! have you been doing for the past 15 years?

I knew that he had issues, Hell! he was raised in a house full of fools,  in-laws included!, but this crazy shit has continued too long. I'm just trying to get a brotha to walk across that stage, I need my life back! I'm 50 and I've got "Stella" plans, I want to get my GROOVE BACK!

I'm rambling and shit, I'm so pissed I lost sight of the subject. Late/Tardy, Absent/Ditching and Missing/Fuck it! I ain't doing it assignments. Then he has the "Awwww ba dassity" to want a girlfriend, play basketball, and hang out! Then I get the truancy letter from the school district! It's a friggin wrap people! I told his ass NO! basketball, No! Christmas, and no Mutha friggin Nothing!. I'm tried people! He can get his shit and get out!! OUT!! Whew!............I swear I'm gonna kill this boy!

Please pray for this Diva, because there are only two words saving his black ass................ "THREE STRIKES"

For the Love of...............Me.

Dear Mr. "Not Right for Me".................

I really needed to express this to you, and this is one of the hardest things this Diva has shared in awhile; for all those years I allowed myself to be "lost"  in you. I say "lost" because during the course of the relationship I'd actually stopped looking out for #1- Me. I'm not surprised, the relationship was doomed from the very beginning, mainly because it wasn't meant to be, both logically or morally. I believe I was very lonely, and looking for love in all the most fucked up places.

This is not some "tell it all"or even a confessional, it's me letting go. It's true people can give you advice, but only you know when it's time to truly let it go. I had a few sistahfriends who were aware of my situation, but I'd  kept it a secret from most people. Why? let's face it, I knew it wasn't right.

Fast forward to present day........................

It's been close to 3 years , and something as insignificant as a birthday present ended our relationship. The truth is the relationship had been on a down hill slope for the last year or so anyway. The gifts, the dinner dates, and romantic get aways had come to a screeching halt. However I stayed, I'd gained 30lbs and felt unattractive, and complacency was my first, middle and last name. But! my inner Diva kept whispering in my ear, telling me that I am a franchise player, and allowing myself to come off the bench for someone elses team was no longer acceptable. God will and He shall do for you what you cannot do for yourself. He knows.

Life is such a fabulous journey, and everyday holds a new experience. We have choices, and we do make mistakes, this is how we grow.  Will I miss you? Of course I will, I was in love with you, But I love me more. Do I regret the relationship? Of course I do, because right now I'm still hurting . Will I get over it? Most certainly I will because I am a survivor, a soldier, a Diva.

Sincerely your ex-mistress,

Me

Interview: Author Curtis "Swagnificent" Alcutt ~ Mr. Erotica

I'm not exactly sure how I met Curtis Alcutt, I do believe it was some where in cyber-space. I just know that our relationship has grown into something special, and it's been my pleasure to watch this extraordinary man's career soar. So, I gave Mr.Swagnificent a call, and asked him if he'd grant this Diva a little one on one.................

Sistahfairy:"Curtis! Thank you so much for taking the time to grace us with your sexy presence. I'm just going to jump right into this thang. When did you realize that writing was your divine destiny?

Curtis Alcutt: I have always loved reading and writing. In the third grade, while I was supposed to be working on math, I got busted by my teacher working on a cartoon strip entitled “The Nose People.” I just knew my ass was grass, but instead she complimented me on my creativity and told my parents. They were as impressed as my teacher was. A short time after that, my school had a creative writing contest. My teacher insisted that I enter. I won! A whopping $1.50!

Sistahfairy: Erotica? Where did that come from?

Curtis Alcutt: Hmmmmm…I guess my inner freak saw that title and knew that’s where I belonged. I had no idea what erotica was until I read my first Zane novel back in around 2004. After reading that and a Eric Jerome Dickey novel, I said to myself, “I can do this!” after that, I had to put up or shut up. Ninety days and 80,000 words later, I finished my first erotic novel “Dyme Hit List” published by the now defunct Black Pearl Books in Atlanta. I am re-releasing “Dyme Hit List” under its original title, “Eyes of a Player.” The eBook is available now, the paperback will be officially released around valentine’s Day, 2012

Sistahfairy: I consider myself pretty damn grown and extremely sensual, and I want to know if you, Mr. Swagnificant are nasty by nature or nurture?

Curtis Alcutt: I think nature nurtured my nasty ass…fuckin’, suckin’, moanin’ and bonin’ are the SHIT! And I have no problem expressing my fondness for it. I personally think that everyone is nasty, but not everyone is willing to acknowledge it. As a kid I was very introverted, but once I hit puberty, it was on and crackin’. I’m not saying be irresponsible about your sexual encounters, but do enjoy them. After all, we only have so much time on this big, blue marble, so you best get all the enjoyment you safely and responsibly can.

Sistahfairy: I agree with that! it is the ish! Please play responsibly, and also do not text and drive. Curtis what are you currently working on?

Curtis Alcutt: Right now, I’m busy finishing up the sequel to my hot erotic thriller, “Sins of a Siren.” The follow up novel is called “Fatal Intentions: Sins of a Siren 2” Both are publish by erotica queen, Zane via Strebor Books, an imprint of mega-publisher, Simon & Schuster. I’m thrilled and blessed to be on this winning team. Also, I, along with my mentor and writing partner are working on book two in the “Black Widow and the Sandman” series. This is a suspense/thriller series sprinkled with romantic elements. This ongoing series features predominately African American characters. It’s best described as a Mission Impossible/James Bond hybrid. If you are a fan of high-tech, dangerous, globetrotting, action, then this is a must read for you! Visit www.llreaper.net for more info. You can even help us pick the cast for the movie!

But, at t this very moment, right now, this minute, I have “Fatal Intentions: Sins of a Siren 2” open on my desktop. I’m about 56,000 words in. My goal is to finish it up by Christmas Day, 2011. Only another 30,000 words to go…

Sistahfairy: I've heard some wonderful things about your literacy program, tell us about that.

Curtis Alcutt: Among other things, I’m president of the literary foundation, WriteWay2Freedom. Our goal is to reach out to kids—especially at-risk youth—and expose them to literacy. I get great enjoyment from helping them find freedom through writing’s therapeutic powers. If you have an organization or event that could benefit from our programs, contact Mati Hara Management - 916.237.7033

Sistahfairy: That's great! Our future is definitely in our children, and I know from my own childhood that books actually saved me, they helped me through some rough times while growing up. It allowed me to escape, if only temporarily, I felt free. Curtis, your talent is so amazing, where do you see this gift taking you?

Curtis Alcutt: My ultimate goal is to have one or more of my books to make it to the big screen or a cable TV series. I’m currently working hard on getting the screenplay for “Black Widow and the Sandman” written. I have it in the hands of a Hollywood insider right now, hoping he will make it happen. Or give me a damn good shot at it…

Sistahfairy: It's always a pleasure for me when we connect, and I'm still waiting on you to take me camping. Is there was one last thing you'd like us to know about Curtis "Swagnificent" Alcutt?

Curtis Alcutt: Hmmm… I want you to know that I appreciate all of you that have read or are reading my books. (Even those of you who borrowed a copy instead of BUYING one to support ya brother.) Other than that, I plan on keeping you wet, hard, horny and thrilled with my writing. Be on the lookout for a lot more in 2012. Stop by my website www.curtisalcutt.com and leave me a note. (nasty or otherwise) Hurry back my way!

Sistahfairy: Take it from me Ladies, Mr.Curtis Alcutt aka ".Swagnificent", is the new reigning King of Erotica, and a serious force to be reckoned with, so hold on to those panties, it's bout get hot and nasty up in here!

SOMERANDOMSHIT...............#3

1. "Don't you think it's time for you to throw that raggedy ass wig away?"

2. ....................Calling all Cat Daddies!!!

3. I STILL haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up!

4. Hmmmmm............What are the true qualities of a Sistahfriend?

5. A pedicure, and a pair of clean panties carry a lot of weight.

6. Whatever happened to the art of dating?

7. To know me, is to know not to fuck up on my birthday!!

8.  America! The only place in the world where a FAT ASS can turn you into a household name. IJS

9.  Why did my son and his friends think last nights eclipse was either, 1) Aliens or 2) the rapture?

10. Why the hell does my Momma keep calling my name?

11. Acknowledge your POWER as a WOMEN, and allow your inner Diva to SHINE.

12. 10+ beers per day equals drunk! Dummy.

13. Do you think people are freaky by nature or nurture?

14. WTH!  Keisha Cole's mama Frankie has a "Do the Frankie Leg" video?

15. I can give it to you, but what cha gwah do wit it?

16, If  you're hair line is receding, then that ponytail is out of the question!

17. If you are a fluffy Diva, thicka than most, curvaceous. and hella cute! Stomp your mf feet!!

18. I keep this really pretty wall up, to protect my heart. I will occasionally change the wallpaper.

19. When is it gonna be my turn?

20.  I'm going to make a dream board, I hear it's very therapeutic.