The Chemistry of a Husband

We Divas have often pondered what are the necessary qualities to make a good husband. I do however realize that what works for one woman may not work for the next one. I personally believe that as people we are constantly evolving, changing, and growing. Our needs and and wants change as women depending on either our age or maybe even our circumstances.
The woman I am today is certainly not the same woman I was, say 20 years ago, and my needs and wants are entirely different. I require more patience, demand security and need romance in my life, and these three things I'll be looking for in a mate. I truly believe that my God has a soul-mate for me it's just that he hasn't "found me yet". I am still growing and so is he, and when we're both ready our paths will cross. Then all the patience, security, and romance will be in full effect, and then, and only then will I have my husband.

The phrase "Patience is a Virtue” has proven to be a mantra throughout my adult life. I've learned to be patient through my many trials and tribulations, and I've tried to remain optimistic regardless of my circumstances. I feel that if I just hold on tight to my faith, everything will be alright. This has never failed me yet, and I require a husband with the same positive outlook. It's so true good things do come to those who wait. A husband that is patient with you will allow you time to explore all that is within you he will encourage and support your dreams and goals. I believe a patient man can be kind and understanding. When both partners in a relationship are patient, it keeps them from missing out on the important things in life and in each other.

A mature, seasoned Diva requires security! I'm not just talking financial security; although that's extremely important (let's be sensible). Another big part of security is trust, and someone that makes me feel safe. I'm a strong independent Diva and I'm used to doing things for myself, unfortunately I've experienced relationships were the man hasn't made me feel safe, and other relationships were there was absolutely no trust. I made up my mind a long time ago; that this was no longer acceptable. Because my personality can be assertive, some men have found this to be intimidating, and use it as an excuse for their own insecurities. I look forward to the day when I'm blessed with a husband that is capable of taking care of all my needs, emotional, sexual and financial.  My husband shouldn't just take care of me because he's capable, but because he's willing to do so.

           Romance is not just about sex, it's about intimacy (Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other). Romance is about communication too, now this doesn't always consist of spoken word   either; a love note or a short text message saying “ I'm thinking of you” also speaks volumes. Trust me! a little romance goes a long way, it'll get those embers smoldering and the fires hot in a New York minute. Fast!

          There is really no such thing as a perfect marriage, and of course no such thing as perfect people. However there are many different things a husband and wife can do to make their situation perfect for one another. They can learn to remain open to love and to change. Because life provides all types of twists and turns and each day can either be a struggle or an adventure. A husband and a wife should be willing to do whatever it takes to move forward in their relationship/marriage. As for myself I'm going to stay optimistic about the perfect husband for me. The Bible states in Proverbs 18:22. “He that finds a wife finds a good thing, and shall obtain favor with God”. This just confirms what I stated before, that patience, security, or romance isn't too tall an order for my God.